roughbarked said:
roughbarked said:
Menslink guiding Canberra boys on a positive path to manhood
If that’s their path, why concentrate on gender?
A study by the University of Canberra’s Centre for Applied Psychology found that not only did young men’s lives and relationships improve while they received support from Menslink, but they also continued to improve in the years afterwards.
From https://www.abc.net.au/news/2020-07-27/menslink-guiding-canberra-boys-to-manhood/12492986 the link to https://menslink.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/UC-Report-into-Long-term-Impacts-of-Menslink-Counselling-and-Mentoring-Oct-2018.pdf
Doesn’t work for me. Does it work for anyone else?
There are two tracks
Why do men need to be fixed? or in fact what is it about this manhood?
Is it the whole of society that needs to be fixed?
There is a book, “Manhood” by Steve Biddulph that answers this in detail. The book starts with the dramatic opening ‘Most men are not fully alive’.
The book takes the form of a practical guide for men who want to transform their lives by taking what the author calls the “Seven Steps to Manhood” -
- “Fixing it” with your father
- Finding sacredness in your sexuality
- Meeting your wife on equal terms
- Engaging actively with your kids
- Learning to have real male friends
- Finding your heart in your work
- Freeing your wild spirit
Each step is covered by a chapter ending with a summary of the key points, and, most importantly, a clear list of suggested actions.
“It’s not possible to build a new identity on an inferiority complex. We had black pride, gay pride, women’s pride but men were supposed to start out with shame.”
“The result of this lack of male contact is a problem we are all aware of: that in today’s world, little boys just grow into bigger little boys. These emotional children in adult bodies then spend their lives pretending. The loneliness of this and the confusion – not knowing how to be comfortable with one’s feelings or how to be close to others just makes the pretending more compulsive and more isolating. The loneliness of men is something women rarely understand.”