http://mashable.com/2012/08/07/no-facebook-psychopath/

Some psychiatrists and employers now find it suspicious for an individual to keep off Facebook, reports The Daily Mail. That’s because for today’s young generation, having Facebook is considered “normal,” while opting out is considered “abnormal.”

Employers may suspect that an applicant’s absence from the social network means the account is so full of offensive material that it had to be deleted. After all, 90% of recruiters check out candidates’ online profiles.

Similarly, psychologists see Facebook activity as a reflection of a healthy social life.

“The Internet has become a natural part of life,” psychologist Christopher Moeller told Germany’s Der Taggspiegel. “It’s possible that you get feelings of positive feedback through online friends.”

In excess, Moeller says, Facebook interactions can reinforce feelings of social anxiety experienced offline.

As the German magazine points out, both suspected Aurora theater gunman James Holmes and the Norwegian massacre shooter Anders Behring Breivik share an absence from Facebook. The publication went as far as to say that Facebook abstainers have reason to be suspected mass murderers.

what a load of crap… I’m not on facebook

;)

Hitler wasn’t on facebook.
Need I say more?

diddly-squat said:

what a load of crap… I’m not on facebook

;)

“As the German magazine points out, both suspected Aurora theater gunman James Holmes and the Norwegian massacre shooter Anders Behring Breivik share an absence from Facebook. “

You can argue with me, but you can’t argue with that

Call me strange, but I don’t really find Facebook “sociable” at all. It’s all preset form-filling and box-clicking. A drab, formulaic substitute for social interaction.

Bubblecar said:

Call me strange, but I don’t really find Facebook “sociable” at all. It’s all preset form-filling and box-clicking. A drab, formulaic substitute for social interaction.

face book is fine for interacting with your PRESENT friends, but it’s not very good for making NEW friends.. That’s the power of a forum or a general chat room, or anything else that exposes you to people you don’t already know.

Bubblecar said:

Call me strange, but I don’t really find Facebook “sociable” at all. It’s all preset form-filling and box-clicking. A drab, formulaic substitute for social interaction.

Lone Wolves aren’t sociable, by definition.

neomyrtus_ said:

Bubblecar said:

Call me strange, but I don’t really find Facebook “sociable” at all. It’s all preset form-filling and box-clicking. A drab, formulaic substitute for social interaction.

Lone Wolves aren’t sociable, by definition.

We don’t mind interacting now and then, as long as it’s on our own terms and in our own way.

and sans bicycle helmets

neomyrtus_ said:

and sans bicycle helmets

I wear a bicycle helmet, but I shake my fist at nanny.

Bubblecar said:

Call me strange, but I don’t really find Facebook “sociable” at all. It’s all preset form-filling and box-clicking. A drab, formulaic substitute for social interaction.

It works for me as a tool to find artists/craftpeople and to keep informed about a wide variety of stuff. I’m also quick to delete people who annoy me with inane comments (Oh, too cute!!! LOL or lol) or who pray and/or post pictures of lit candles when 20 kids are massacred in a school.

Dropbear said:

face book is fine for interacting with your PRESENT friends, but it’s not very good for making NEW friends.. That’s the power of a forum or a general chat room, or anything else that exposes you to people you don’t already know.

Well, I’ve made heaps of new friends – not associated with sssf or any other forum.

kii said:

Bubblecar said:

Call me strange, but I don’t really find Facebook “sociable” at all. It’s all preset form-filling and box-clicking. A drab, formulaic substitute for social interaction.

It works for me as a tool to find artists/craftpeople and to keep informed about a wide variety of stuff. I’m also quick to delete people who annoy me with inane comments (Oh, too cute!!! LOL or lol) or who pray and/or post pictures of lit candles when 20 kids are massacred in a school.

we need to remember that facebook is a social network.. not a bunch of ‘mates’ the emphasis should be on ‘network’ instead of social

Arts said:

we need to remember that facebook is a social network.. not a bunch of ‘mates’ the emphasis should be on ‘network’ instead of social

True…very true.

kii said:

Dropbear said:

face book is fine for interacting with your PRESENT friends, but it’s not very good for making NEW friends.. That’s the power of a forum or a general chat room, or anything else that exposes you to people you don’t already know.

Well, I’ve made heaps of new friends – not associated with sssf or any other forum.

So have I but just not via facebook.

“Your privacy is important to us.”

How many times have you heard this spiel? “Your privacy is important to us. Read our privacy policy.”

If your privacy was really important, would the websites that you visit every day, the ones that you use to share stories with family and connect with long-distance friends, need to continuously revise a contract to tell you so? If social media websites really did respect your privacy, would policies be so littered with jargon that the entire document reads like fine print?

One of the social media privacy (or “data use”) policies to capture the most heated attention is Facebook’s.
“A privacy policy is a disclosure document, whose purpose is to inform (and therefore protect) consumers,” Businessweek advised business owners. Yet all too often, there’s nothing informative about these unintelligible documents – and that may be the point.

Why the FTC Didn’t ‘Like’ Facebook’s Privacy Policy

“Confused by Facebook’s new privacy policy? You’re supposed to be,” read the title of Digital Trends’ blog post on the subject. It’s not just a subjective opinion, either. The social media site’s 2009 revisions to the privacy policy received such heated attention that the United States Federal Trade Commission (FTC) filed official complaints against the social media giant for what The New York Times referred to as “deceptive practices.” The specific policies that have come under fire include the automatic public display of personal information such as users’ names, location, gender, and (certain) photographs, as well as social media activity such as “liked” pages and friends lists…

“Ever since Facebook was founded in 2004, Mark Zuckerberg, its chief executive, has pushed its users to share more information about themselves,” The New York Times wrote in 2010. “Time and again, users have pushed back, complaining that some new feature or setting on the site violated their privacy.”

etc

http://www.insidefacebook.com/2013/07/02/guest-post-rights-facebook-privacy-policies/

While browsing the above a fucking facebook pop-up appeared.

I would have liked to click “like” but I’m not on fb :)

The ones crying loudest about privacy on social media are usually the ones posting stuff like this:

Ian said:

While browsing the above a fucking facebook pop-up appeared.

It is why I didn’t click.

I think the appropriate response from me would be …..“What’s Facebook?”

(How does my cousin have time to find all the stuff she puts on there anyway? Obviously she doesn’t do cooking and gardening and other stuff)

Divine Angel said:

The ones crying loudest about privacy on social media are usually the ones posting stuff like this:

I have found these left by my dog on the sofa before

they dry out and you’ll normally find them if you casually slip your hand into a crease

wookiemeister said:

I have found these left by my dog on the sofa before

they dry out and you’ll normally find them if you casually slip your hand into a crease

…brought to you by lameforum ^TM

“As the German magazine points out, both suspected Aurora theater gunman James Holmes and the Norwegian massacre shooter Anders Behring Breivik share an absence from Facebook. The publication went as far as to say that Facebook abstainers have reason to be suspected mass murderers.”

http://mashable.com/2012/08/07/no-facebook-psychopath/

the link posted discusses how the accused mentioned had/used other social network avenues, also Breivik had an extensive blog ..

but let’s not let facts get in the way of a tenuous link…

also the link within the article is

“Your privacy is important to us.”

it means that having all your private information is important to them and their marketing team.

Dropbear said:

Similarly, psychologists see Facebook activity as a reflection of a healthy social life.

I don’t agree with this at all. Anecdote alert: I dropped facebook for several months. Despite my friends having other contact details such as my phone number and email, I never heard from any of them. This leads me to a couple of conclusions: 1) They’re not actually friends and 2) Facebook has replaced other forms of communication, not just face-to-face contact. Perhaps the “reflection of a healthy social life” comes across from communications within the medium and photos of the person with other people when the reality is that perhaps the person is actually a loner who prefers their own company than that of other people? After all, people on Facebook typically whinge about their day, garnering sympathy for their plight… Misery loves company.

>the emphasis should be on ‘network’ instead of social

I’m a non-networked unit.

Maybe I should add a caption to my fb profile picture: I wear this onesie in an ironic sense.

Reminds me of a cartoon I saw.. A funeral with only 4-5 people there. One commented to the other.. “But he had over a hundred friends on Facebook”.

Divine Angel said:

Dropbear said:

Similarly, psychologists see Facebook activity as a reflection of a healthy social life.

I don’t agree with this at all. Anecdote alert: I dropped facebook for several months. Despite my friends having other contact details such as my phone number and email, I never heard from any of them. This leads me to a couple of conclusions: 1) They’re not actually friends and 2) Facebook has replaced other forms of communication, not just face-to-face contact. Perhaps the “reflection of a healthy social life” comes across from communications within the medium and photos of the person with other people when the reality is that perhaps the person is actually a loner who prefers their own company than that of other people? After all, people on Facebook typically whinge about their day, garnering sympathy for their plight… Misery loves company.

the link within the original article discusses how facebook is ruining our teenagers..

They were already totes ruined.

Divine Angel said:

I don’t agree with this at all. Anecdote alert: I dropped facebook for several months. Despite my friends having other contact details such as my phone number and email, I never heard from any of them. This leads me to a couple of conclusions: 1) They’re not actually friends and 2) Facebook has replaced other forms of communication, not just face-to-face contact. Perhaps the “reflection of a healthy social life” comes across from communications within the medium and photos of the person with other people when the reality is that perhaps the person is actually a loner who prefers their own company than that of other people? After all, people on Facebook typically whinge about their day, garnering sympathy for their plight… Misery loves company.

Based on my own example, I wouldn’t be at all surprised to find that many people who chat quite a lot online don’t mingle much in person. OTOH, you would also expect that people who do mingle much in person would also probably chat a lot online, so it’s not a black & white picture.

there is some truth in misery loves company. but it extends to the fact that your facebook page look exactly like you built it. We all tend to gravitate towards the people we have most in common with.

Mr Mutant doesn’t do anything with his fb account; he’s an introvert if that counts for anything.

mr arts and many of our friends don’t have facebook accounts either.. actually I have more friends that don’t than who do… but then we socialise and catch up in person often enough.. all fine upstanding citizens and perfectly normal… (well, most of them)

Arts said:

there is some truth in misery loves company. but it extends to the fact that your facebook page look exactly like you built it. We all tend to gravitate towards the people we have most in common with.

Well, my fb friends didn’t dump me when I had a Simpsons blog post every day… so that counts for something ;)

Divine Angel said:

Arts said:

there is some truth in misery loves company. but it extends to the fact that your facebook page look exactly like you built it. We all tend to gravitate towards the people we have most in common with.

Well, my fb friends didn’t dump me when I had a Simpsons blog post every day… so that counts for something ;)

facebook itself dumped half my friends list.. when I reactivated.. or so the ones that have come back said (I guess they might have dumped me themselves lol)

Having said that, I’m surprised when young people don’t have fb. The young lady (early 20s) here at work doesn’t have it- she found there was so much bitching and negativity going on that she deleted her account and is much happier for it.

mind you it also doesn’t ever want to link to instagram.. so might be a simple setting I forgot I set

Divine Angel said:

Arts said:

there is some truth in misery loves company. but it extends to the fact that your facebook page look exactly like you built it. We all tend to gravitate towards the people we have most in common with.

Well, my fb friends didn’t dump me when I had a Simpsons blog post every day… so that counts for something ;)

On it was close :) lol.

I’m increasingly being asked why I’m not on Instagram, though.

Divine Angel said:

Having said that, I’m surprised when young people don’t have fb. The young lady (early 20s) here at work doesn’t have it- she found there was so much bitching and negativity going on that she deleted her account and is much happier for it.

Apparently facebook is lame now that the parents, aunties and uncles are on it.. Not rebellious or hipster enough yadda yadda.

All the cool kids have a Tumblr these days

I don’t, and have never had, a fb account.

lights pipe and rocks back and forth in the rocking chair on my verandah, cradling my shotgun

I ought to delete my FB account because there are probably people out there who think I’m being rude by never posting anything.

Divine Angel said:

Arts said:

there is some truth in misery loves company. but it extends to the fact that your facebook page look exactly like you built it. We all tend to gravitate towards the people we have most in common with.

Well, my fb friends didn’t dump me when I had a Simpsons blog post every day… so that counts for something ;)

I did enjoy those ones… still doing them?

Bubblecar said:

I ought to delete my FB account because there are probably people out there who think I’m being rude by never posting anything.

Why would you care what they think?

>Why would you care what they think?

Why wouldn’t I?

I am on facebook and find it useful for keeping in touch with mostly ex military mates which also plugs into a lot of clubs and associations. Bit of a problem with suicides at the moment, with condolence messages almost daily. My friends list is only small, I am not interested in having hundreds of “friends”, all those on my list are close enough to tap for money if required. It is also useful for planning parties, otherwise it is like herding cats.

Skunkworks said:

all those on my list are close enough to tap for money if required.

Why would you need to ask your friends for money?

Bubblecar said:

>Why would you care what they think?

Why wouldn’t I?

Lone wolves shouldn’t care.

Arts said:

Divine Angel said:

Arts said:

there is some truth in misery loves company. but it extends to the fact that your facebook page look exactly like you built it. We all tend to gravitate towards the people we have most in common with.

Well, my fb friends didn’t dump me when I had a Simpsons blog post every day… so that counts for something ;)

I did enjoy those ones… still doing them?

Yep. simpsonsaday.wordpress.com and from there you can like the fb page where the posts go everyday instead of to my main account. I have quite a few followers now, including one from Nepal.

Witty Rejoinder said:

Skunkworks said:

all those on my list are close enough to tap for money if required.

Why would you need to ask your friends for money?

I don’t , it was illustrating the nature of the relationship, if you cannot ask them for a loan they are probably not real friends.

>Lone wolves shouldn’t care.

Lone wolves don’t work by the rules.

Skunkworks said:

Witty Rejoinder said:

Skunkworks said:

all those on my list are close enough to tap for money if required.

Why would you need to ask your friends for money?

I don’t , it was illustrating the nature of the relationship, if you cannot ask them for a loan they are probably not real friends.

wait, what do they say about business and pleasure?

Arts said:

Skunkworks said:

Witty Rejoinder said:

Why would you need to ask your friends for money?

I don’t , it was illustrating the nature of the relationship, if you cannot ask them for a loan they are probably not real friends.

wait, what do they say about business and pleasure?

Ok the borrowing money thing seems to have confused people. How about mates enough to do an airport pickup and drop off. Clearer?

Skunkworks said:

I don’t , it was illustrating the nature of the relationship, if you cannot ask them for a loan they are probably not real friends.

Fair enough.

Skunkworks said:

Arts said:

Skunkworks said:

I don’t , it was illustrating the nature of the relationship, if you cannot ask them for a loan they are probably not real friends.

wait, what do they say about business and pleasure?

Ok the borrowing money thing seems to have confused people. How about mates enough to do an airport pickup and drop off. Clearer?

oh… you mean the sort of mates you can call if you ever wake up in a hotel room and there’s dead hooker in the bed…

I see you are talking behind my back again. Be wary, very wary…

amazing how many people who come on this forum don’t have a facebook account… they can’t all be serial killers..

Arts said:

oh… you mean the sort of mates you can call if you ever wake up in a hotel room and there’s dead hooker in the bed…

hehehehe, a few of them are ex cops so they could probably give some good advice.

Skunkworks said:

all those on my list are close enough to tap for money if required.

Cancels friend request :)

Dropbear said:

Skunkworks said:

all those on my list are close enough to tap for money if required.

Cancels friend request :)

That has been changed to an airport pickup and drop.

Skunkworks said:

Dropbear said:

Skunkworks said:

all those on my list are close enough to tap for money if required.

Cancels friend request :)

That has been changed to an airport pickup and drop.

still wouldn’t count on it :)

Skunkworks said:

Dropbear said:

Skunkworks said:

all those on my list are close enough to tap for money if required.

Cancels friend request :)

That has been changed to an airport pickup and drop.

Yeh I just caught up. How far do you live from the airport?

Dropbear said:

Skunkworks said:

Dropbear said:

Cancels friend request :)

That has been changed to an airport pickup and drop.

Yeh I just caught up. How far do you live from the airport?

137km as the crow flys.

Skunkworks said:

Dropbear said:

Skunkworks said:

That has been changed to an airport pickup and drop.

Yeh I just caught up. How far do you live from the airport?

137km as the crow flys.

Cancels friend request :)

Dropbear said:

Skunkworks said:

Dropbear said:

Yeh I just caught up. How far do you live from the airport?

137km as the crow flys.

Cancels friend request :)

Fair enough. But funnily it is an easy drive, highway all the way, mostly 110 kmh and no traffic lights until you pretty much hit the terminal. I spent more time commuting 30km when I was in Sydney.

Skunkworks said:

Dropbear said:

Skunkworks said:

137km as the crow flys.

Cancels friend request :)

Fair enough. But funnily it is an easy drive, highway all the way, mostly 110 kmh and no traffic lights until you pretty much hit the terminal. I spent more time commuting 30km when I was in Sydney.

Doesn’t sound so bad…

I’m 15 mins from the airport by freeway at the moment, but far enough away not to be able to hear them.

Arts said:

Skunkworks said:

Arts said:

wait, what do they say about business and pleasure?

Ok the borrowing money thing seems to have confused people. How about mates enough to do an airport pickup and drop off. Clearer?

oh… you mean the sort of mates you can call if you ever wake up in a hotel room and there’s dead hooker in the bed…

And how embarrassing is it when you realise they aren’t that good a friend!

So this means by brother and two of my sisters are psychos.

Adds up.

dv said:

So this means by brother and two of my sisters are psychos.

Adds up.

Oo…my remaining siblings (3 brothers and 1 sister) are not on fb. Certainly makes sense for me.

None of my family are on FB.

Bubblecar said:

None of my family are on FB.

all my family except me are.

Dropbear said:

Reminds me of a cartoon I saw.. A funeral with only 4-5 people there. One commented to the other.. “But he had over a hundred friends on Facebook”.

Had? Death doesn’t stop you having fb friends. My dead dog has over 200 fb friends.

facebook – is there anything it cannot do?

1) I have been researching the first mayor of Sandgate. The ‘official’ history has him coming out alone on the “Fortitude”. I first discovered that hae came with one relative, probably a cousin. Yesterday morning, I discovered that two of his sisters were on the ship, and I quickly found out a bit about them. Last night, on a page named Vintage Queensland, a photo of a son of one of those sisters was posted. (He was a quite famous photographer in and around Ipswich.}
2) I have been posting some photos taken by my grandmother’s half brother. He had quite an unusual set of forenames. His nephew also had the same forenames. I was contacted by the granddaughter of that nephew. (We are half second cousins once removed.)

Like many things – it depends on how you use it. I see fb as a tool.

morrie said:

Dropbear said:

Reminds me of a cartoon I saw.. A funeral with only 4-5 people there. One commented to the other.. “But he had over a hundred friends on Facebook”.

Had? Death doesn’t stop you having fb friends. My dead dog has over 200 fb friends.

The point being if he had so many FB friends, why didn’t he have more at the funeral.

I see fb as a tool.

And I see tools on fb…

(Couldn’t resist.)

MartinB said:

bq. I see fb as a tool.

And I see tools on fb…

(Couldn’t resist.)

I knew someone would….it surprises me that it’s you. I like to set little traps.

I need to pretend to be human occasionally.

MartinB said:

I need to pretend to be human occasionally.

Well…yes.

Dropbear said:

morrie said:

Dropbear said:

Reminds me of a cartoon I saw.. A funeral with only 4-5 people there. One commented to the other.. “But he had over a hundred friends on Facebook”.

Had? Death doesn’t stop you having fb friends. My dead dog has over 200 fb friends.

The point being if he had so many FB friends, why didn’t he have more at the funeral.

Um, yes, I did actually get that.

So, no one does myspace anymore?

“..The publication went as far as to say that Facebook abstainers have reason to be suspected mass murderers…”

I tend to agree, same applies to the unborn, the dead, perhaps even ones pets .

Individuals wont be properly liberated until they all start masturbating in public. Facebook is the next best thing.

transition said:

“..The publication went as far as to say that Facebook abstainers have reason to be suspected mass murderers…”

It could mean that we just don’t give a shit.