I’ve had this friend, probably my best friend, since I was 11. In her 20s-30s she got a bit weird, pyramids, drumming to the moon, vagina lectures…just weird stuff. (she moved away forever ago so we don’t see each other or contact very much)

I only added her on facebook a few months ago and she posts stuff about conspiracy theories, things I think are just nuts but whatever.
the past few posts though have been in support of the AVN and I just can’t get past it. so I messaged her this

“Hey Deb, I’m not sure how to say this so I just will. I don’t agree with a lot of what you post but I can ignore what I choose. However, with the posts about mad Meryl Dorey and the AVN, I cannot. this is a dangerous woman with a dangerous agenda. I still value our friendship but I don’t want this bullshit on my timeline, so I’m deleting you. take care”

I need some loving :( She’s been my bestie for 41 years

Shit, purps, I’m not sure what to say.

I’m not sure that I’d have the moral strength to do what you just did, and ya, girlfriend, that took very large one’s. Hopefully this can only shock your friend into some form of normality.

All I can say is, you are not alone.

Possibly the bravest thing to do is to stand up against a mate. You can love someone or have a mateship that divides like the great divide sometimes as you age. Brave to confront this division and take action. My uncle suggests that there are no bad decisions in the sense you made the best decision possible at that time . In your future you will make more decisions based on that very basis too.

I feel physically ill but I will not condone that sort of bullshit.
thanks guys :)
I knew I could depend on scientists :)

purple said:

I feel physically ill but I will not condone that sort of bullshit.
thanks guys :)
I knew I could depend on scientists :)

Don’t shit me, I’m an engineer :)

Stay strong, purps. You really did a very, very brave thing.

You are one courageous gal, Purple.

“All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing.”
Edmund Burke (1729-1797)

Purple, Edmund Burke may not have known it at the time, but that quote was meant for the likes of you. (He just the gender bit all screwy).

Keep smiling.

My daughter is doing psychology.
the other day she got me to watch a video of a guy who was talking about the need for family violence to become a male problem, rather than a female problem. it was a TED lecture (I’m a bit in love with TED lectures)
anyway, he talked a lot about the bystander effect in essence what you just said stan.
The very same afternoon, I had a timeline post by a loosely related family member who likes to repost stuff about not helping immigrants and “illegals”…we should be helping veterans. sometimes I say something, sometimes I don’t.
my studying daughter, seeing me post a reply (something like how about we help human beings) and said “its not worth it mum, she’s an idiot. so I said, huh, I should be a bystander?
she said “no, no you shouldn’t. I didn’t think of it like that”
that lecture gave me a bit of power to know that when something says something denigrating other human beings because of race religion sexuality whatever, I should not stay silent.
who knows, maybe the posts will stop. probably not, but me neither :)

here’s the link
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTvSfeCRxe8&feature=youtu.be
Jackson Katz

purple said:

I’ve had this friend, probably my best friend, since I was 11. In her 20s-30s she got a bit weird, pyramids, drumming to the moon, vagina lectures…just weird stuff. (she moved away forever ago so we don’t see each other or contact very much)

I only added her on facebook a few months ago and she posts stuff about conspiracy theories, things I think are just nuts but whatever.
the past few posts though have been in support of the AVN and I just can’t get past it. so I messaged her this

“Hey Deb, I’m not sure how to say this so I just will. I don’t agree with a lot of what you post but I can ignore what I choose. However, with the posts about mad Meryl Dorey and the AVN, I cannot. this is a dangerous woman with a dangerous agenda. I still value our friendship but I don’t want this bullshit on my timeline, so I’m deleting you. take care”

I need some loving :( She’s been my bestie for 41 years

Sounds like she has some mental problems. Are you sure you can’t help?

Purple – it’s a shame you couldn’t write that without thinking twice about it. I’m not saying you are wrong to worry about it, you can’t help how you feel, but it is a shame. I hope your friend just accepts it as something you have every right to do, without affecting your long term friendship.

As for the guy talking about violence against women, I’m afraid I only watched a couple of minutes. It’s not a men’s issue and it’s not a women’s issue, it’s a people’s issue. Putting people into two stereotypical groups, and saying that all of one group are somehow responsible for the bad actions of some of the group is not a solution to the problem, it’s part of the problem.

Not sure about the vaccination thing but pyramid power is real – ok, it’s where I draw the strength to list here on an sparingly irregular basis.

Not sure about the vaccination thing but pyramid power is real – ok, it’s where I draw the strength to list here on an sparingly irregular basis.

wookiemeister said:

Not sure about the vaccination thing but pyramid power is real – ok, it’s where I draw the strength to post here on an sparingly irregular basis.

wookiemeister said:

wookiemeister said:

Not sure about the vaccination thing but pyramid power is real – ok, it’s where I draw the strength to post here on an sparingly irregular basis.

How can your pyramid have only three sides?

roughbarked said:

wookiemeister said:

wookiemeister said:

Not sure about the vaccination thing but pyramid power is real – ok, it’s where I draw the strength to post here on an sparingly irregular basis.

How can your pyramid have only three sides?

You don’t know the power of the pyramid my friend

I sharpen all my hunting knives in the pyramid which is most effective when exposed to the power of the light of the full moon

purple said:

I’ve had this friend, probably my best friend, since I was 11. In her 20s-30s she got a bit weird, pyramids, drumming to the moon, vagina lectures…just weird stuff. (she moved away forever ago so we don’t see each other or contact very much)

I only added her on facebook a few months ago and she posts stuff about conspiracy theories, things I think are just nuts but whatever.
the past few posts though have been in support of the AVN and I just can’t get past it. so I messaged her this

“Hey Deb, I’m not sure how to say this so I just will. I don’t agree with a lot of what you post but I can ignore what I choose. However, with the posts about mad Meryl Dorey and the AVN, I cannot. this is a dangerous woman with a dangerous agenda. I still value our friendship but I don’t want this bullshit on my timeline, so I’m deleting you. take care”

I need some loving :( She’s been my bestie for 41 years

so… I’m not actually on Facebook, but I am of the understanding that there is a way to remain friends with someone but block their posts so that don’t appear on your timeline.

diddly-squat said:

so… I’m not actually on Facebook, but I am of the understanding that there is a way to remain friends with someone but block their posts so that don’t appear on your timeline.

That’s the coward’s way out.

Well done Purple, too many people think the aim of life (and facebook) is to have as many friends as possible. I call bullshit on that. You did the right thing for you. :)

Carmen_Sandiego said:

diddly-squat said:

so… I’m not actually on Facebook, but I am of the understanding that there is a way to remain friends with someone but block their posts so that don’t appear on your timeline.

That’s the coward’s way out.

Well done Purple, too many people think the aim of life (and facebook) is to have as many friends as possible. I call bullshit on that. You did the right thing for you. :)

I guess… but then I suppose it is possible to be friends with someone and not agree with all of their world views.

diddly-squat said:

I guess… but then I suppose it is possible to be friends with someone and not agree with all of their world views.

That would cover most of my friends.

roughbarked said:

diddly-squat said:

I guess… but then I suppose it is possible to be friends with someone and not agree with all of their world views.

That would cover most of my friends.

.
That is an important, that you are friends despite non-shared views and ideology.

bob(from black rock) said:

roughbarked said:

diddly-squat said:

I guess… but then I suppose it is possible to be friends with someone and not agree with all of their world views.

That would cover most of my friends.

.
That is an important, that you are friends despite non-shared views and ideology.

The only things I could add are tolerance, acceptance, allowing others to have some freedom of choice.

CrazyNeutrino said:

bob(from black rock) said:

roughbarked said:

That would cover most of my friends.

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That is an important, that you are friends despite non-shared views and ideology.

The only things I could add are tolerance, acceptance, allowing others to have some freedom of choice.

.

And don’t barrack for Collingwood!!!

bob(from black rock) said:

roughbarked said:

diddly-squat said:

I guess… but then I suppose it is possible to be friends with someone and not agree with all of their world views.

That would cover most of my friends.

.
That is an important, that you are friends despite non-shared views and ideology.

What’s the point of being friends on facebook if you hide their feed?

Carmen_Sandiego said:

bob(from black rock) said:

roughbarked said:

That would cover most of my friends.

.
That is an important, that you are friends despite non-shared views and ideology.

What’s the point of being friends on facebook if you hide their feed?

presumably it means you can still easily contact them and, if you want, visit their wall to see what they are up to.

allowing others to have some freedom of choice.
——————————————————————————

Yes Sir!

Thank you for giving me the freedom of choice Sir!

Yasser I can boogie

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ygb0F-VCTPI&feature=kp

I for one can’t wait for a vote on the bill of rights.

Unfortunately I think it will fail to gain the majority needed and we will be stuck with doing as we like.

I have a personal & fb friend who believes every woo woo theory going around.
After some acrimonious posts we have agreed on a list of topics which I find unacceptable & she doesn’t post them to my fb.
We are still friends who now know each others limits.

Hi Purps :)

Ah, Facebook! Both our lifeline and the bane of our existence. Firstly, good on you for taking a stance and purging your life of people who do not add anything nice to your life. People are absolutely entitled to post their values on their fb, and when those values are perpetuating bullshit, fear, lies or other nasties, it’s detrimental to everyone (for some reason, people believe whatever they read on the interwebs, especially social media). So good on you for telling her she’s posting bullshit and you’re not going to continue the cycle of perpetuating lies. Or putting up with said bullshit.

Secondly, the abrupt closure of a friendship is always difficult. People do change and our values no longer match. It’s sad when we lose people we were once close to but you’ll always share memories of your friendship. Personally, I believe you’ve done exactly the right thing by giving her the reason you’re closing the friendship. It can be very difficult when one person takes away their friendship with seemingly no reason.

You’ve made a tough decision so be kind to yourself :)

Acceptance

Tolerance

Freedom of Choice